I think part of my reaction to the recent rash of BFPs is that I'm feeling more and more on the outside on my infertility forums. Many of the women I started with on infertility forums have graduated to the other side. There are a fair number of us original members left, and our numbers are sadly always being replenished, but it just seems like every day more and more of the women who I've come to know and love are moving on up (insert the Jeffersons' theme song here). Maybe that's why these BFPs hurt rather than bring me joy. I'm very afraid of being the last one standing. Plus, I selfishly don't want to lose all of my friends.
I will say for myself that once I get over my initial reaction, I swallow hard and reply to the big announcement. I'm not unhappy for my infertile sister, just sorry for myself and where I stand facing the end of the ART road. I'm still not strong enough to send jumping green men. I hope a note of congratulations, and a lingering sense of shame on my part, will suffice.