Update to My heart skips a beat

CW got back to me and reassured me that L's biological grandmother's request will not delay the process of our adoption.  BGM asked for a visit, not custody.  CW spoke with her and denied her request. Without going into detail, BGM is not safe or appropriate for the children to visit with. CW said there is no way she will allow visitation.  She did tell BGM that she could write a letter which CW would pass on when she visits next. BGM was not happy about that, but seemed to accept it. 

Although I have some sympathy for a grandmother wanting to see her late son's children during the holidays, it's best for the boys if they don't have contact with her.  Visiting would benefit her, not them.  Sadly, this is one of those situations when a person is reaping what they sowed.