Thursday, April 30, 2009

Long Shot

We submitted our homestudy for the first time yesterday.  The child is an 18-month old boy who is legally free and has "mild" physical and emotional needs (whatever that means since mild for one person might be nothing for another). I found the child on an adoption resource website.  I was surprised his profile was even on there because usually this adoption site is for children for whom it's harder to find families, like older children and children with significant special needs. Almost all of the children are legal risk placements.  I'm wondering if there was some kind of mistake. The supervisor said she forwarded our homestudy to the child's worker and that a number of homestudies have been submitted for consideration.  I bet! I'm sure that's an enormous understatement. 

That all adds up to this: we have pretty much no chance to be matched with him.  Why? This isn't the office that did our homestudy, and I'm sure they have lots of their own families who've been waiting.  Surely, the child will be matched with a family that the worker knows through MAPP classes or from doing their homestudy.  They're buried in homestudies at the moment which means there's a stay-at-home mom in there somewhere.  Seriously, I'd prefer to be a stay-at-home mom, at least until our child is 3 or so, so I'd understand if they preferred to place this child with one. 

Bottom line: I'm not getting my hopes up, but it's nice to be able to have a shot, even if it's a only a long shot. 

7 comments:

Wendy said...

Just wanted to wish you lots of luck!! I hope you find out soon.

caitsmom said...

You never know what they are looking for, it could just as likely be YOU. That's my two cents : ) Hope all works out the way you desire. Peace.

RB said...

Fingers crossed anyway :) Good luck!

Corrine said...

I am a stay at home mom, and have yet to have a placement. Children that we have inquired about often are placed with families without other children.
The point?
Don't give up, or get discouraged. They might just be looking for YOU!

Polly Gamwich said...

Karen I want to wish you luck with this ... just today I started considering foster parenting ... like for real. I am so inspired by you and proud of you. Please do keep us posted ok?

Barb said...

Huge congrats on your first submission! Wishing you lots of best wishes.

Me said...

You know that I am rooting for you LOUD AND PROUD!!! I know your kind soul will have a child soon, I just wish I knew when or could help expedite the process or SOMETHING!!!