What started as one couple's search for one good egg has evolved into a search for one good chick as we make plans to adopt from foster care
Friday, February 20, 2009
A friend's pain
My friend B of No Regrets just got a negative beta on her final IVF cycle. I've been there, and I know how much comfort the kind words of others gave to me during that time. Please go over and give her some love.
I keep fighting back tears for her this morning. It just isn't fair. I know there's no such thing as "deserving" IF or a baby but it just seems so unfair that some of the truly kindest people I've met are the ones whose bodies fail them the most. WTF?!?!?
I know. The unfairness of it all overwhelms me, especially today with Steph's news too. I hate that some women can pop out babies one after the other, only to beat them or neglect them, while others try so hard to have a child and just can't. And I don't mean me. I've pretty much accepted where I am, but damn it my friends shouldn't have to deal with this too. It sucks!
My husband and I started trying to conceive our first child in July 2005. Too many months to count, 5 birthdays, 5 IUI's, 2 IVFs, 2 IVFs converted to IUI, and less one ovary later, we stopped searching for one good egg. We decided parenting was more important to us than pregnancy. We adopted our son from foster care in 2010.
8 comments:
I'm just so sad for her, Karen. When I started reading her post, I really thought maybe she got a positive. I hope she's doing okay.
I keep fighting back tears for her this morning. It just isn't fair. I know there's no such thing as "deserving" IF or a baby but it just seems so unfair that some of the truly kindest people I've met are the ones whose bodies fail them the most. WTF?!?!?
I know. The unfairness of it all overwhelms me, especially today with Steph's news too. I hate that some women can pop out babies one after the other, only to beat them or neglect them, while others try so hard to have a child and just can't. And I don't mean me. I've pretty much accepted where I am, but damn it my friends shouldn't have to deal with this too. It sucks!
I was really holding back the tears as I was reading that. You're sweet to ask for support for her on your blog. Sending you hugs too, Karen.
Thanks, Karen.......I hate that so many of you before me know just how this part feels too. It all really sucks.
Hugs back to all of you.
Um, yeah, like you and others here I know to well that sense of defeat. I'm off to share my condolences and offer support now.
Karen -- How are you doing? You haven't posted in a while...just checking in on you. :)
Checking in on you again...anything new?
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