The very good news is that he followed through and saw the counselor on Friday. He felt good about the appointment. He came home and told me that he was surprised to hear that he's not extremely messed up-that his fears and anxieties are normal. Uh. . .yeah. . .that's what I said when he started all of this. I guess he just needed to hear it from someone else. As it stands right now, I'm going to call on Monday to make an appointment with the same counselor. After the counselor sees me one on one, he's going to see us both together. I was worried at first that this guy wouldn't have much understanding of infertility. Then I found out that DH got his name from a friend who, along with his wife, dealt with IF for years. They both highly recommended him.
DH and I have agreed that we'll keep plugging along with the homestudy while this is going on. He said he really does want to be a dad, but he really doesn't want to be the kind of dad his father was to him. He wants to know how to keep that from happening. I don't think there's a chance of that happening because he is nowhere close to the person his father is. However, I think DH needs to figure that out for himself. Hopefully this process will help him do that.