Monday, August 25, 2008

We're in unless I hear otherwise. . .la, la, la, la, la, la (fingers in ears)

I left a message for our adoption social worker almost two weeks ago asking when MAPP training would start. MAPP classes are the state-run classes all prospective foster and foster-adopt parents need to take in order to be licensed by the state. DH works a lot of nights and we need to arrange for him to swap shifts with people, so I was anxious to have dates in hand. Our social worker called me back last week and left a message. He said that classes start on Monday, September 8. He also said that they would be sending out the invite letters soon. A week later and we're still waiting for a letter, but I'm assuming we're in. He listed all the dates for me and ended his message with, "I hope to see you then." That's pretty much an invite, right? You would take it that way, wouldn't you?

I have a tendency to worry about things. I know it's ridiculous, but I would feel so much better having a letter as proof that we can attend, that we're moving on to the next step. I think that's one of the left-over pieces of infertility that I need to deal with---this low-level but ever-present worry that things aren't going to work out. I find that I often expect the worse. It's one of those shadows I wrote about in my last post. I know this will pass with time . . . with time and a damn letter from social services. Is that the mailman?

7 comments:

Shelby said...

I understand that tendency to look at everything through the 'glass is half full, or maybe it might even be empty' glasses. Thanks to IF. But this sounds so promising for you. I bet your happy ending is going to be here so much sooner than you know. Good news on the classes!

Lost in Space said...

IF conditions us to just wait for the other shoe to drop. I completely understand your worry about having the "proof in hand". I am the same way. I think your adoption social worker's word is more than good for an invite. Yup, you are in. (:

Congrats and good luck with the classes!!

g said...

I to understand that line of thinking.. its hard to get rid of after IF ... But things will change... in time..

Hope you get that letter soon and the confirmation u need. :)

Good luck with the class...

Barb said...

I feel the same. It's one of the reasons we never got around to scheduling our mapp classes.

Best of luck and I look forward to hearing about it.

MamaSoon said...

I hope you get your letter soon!

CappyPrincess said...

Yup, sure sounds like you've been officially invited even if you don't have it in print.

I haven't heard of any social workers who call up and say "we're going to be having a class. we might want you to attend. so watch for the mail and if you get a letter then you know we want you."

Good luck with all of that!

Michelle said...

Thanks for taking my poll! I'm a teacher too. I'm curious to see what others have done. For our first adoption, I got 8 weeks paid by using my banked sick days (and then took an extended, unpaid leave). This time around, I had no sick days banked (thanks, toddler child!), so my 10 week leave is unpaid...and currently unstaffed by a sub!!

Good luck with the classes!