Sunday, September 20, 2009

We Met Him!

We met Baby Boy yesterday. It wasn't like a meeting you'd see in a Lif.etime movie, but it was still amazing. He's cutting teeth (it looks like the whole top rack is coming in at once), he didn't have his nap, and he's developed stranger anxiety, so he was not in the best mood. However, he tends toward happy so he'd look at us and start laughing and playing. Then he'd suddenly remember he didn't know us and the laugh would turn into a cry midstream. It was sad but cute. It's actually good that he has stranger anxiety because it means that he's attached to his foster mom. If he didn't have an attachment it would be worrying. It means that he's capable of forming healthy attachments and, with time, he'll be able to form one with us.

We went back today to feed him lunch and it was much better. We'd left a little plastic photo book with pictures of us and the dogs for him to look at. When we walked in, his foster mom said, "Baby Boy, Mommy and Daddy are here." I got goosebumps. He came crawling out, right over to me and touched my foot (it's at his level after all). He seemed to remember us, and not as the scary people from yesterday, but in a good way. We ended up playing with him in the family room by ourselves for a while. The foster mom started in there with us, but quietly left after a few minutes. BB had no problem at all. At one point, he laid back in DH's lap and just looked up at him. DH started tickling BB's tummy while he was leaning back and BB just giggled and giggled. I don't know if I've ever been so happy. I can't imagine my heart could be any more full.

We had to leave to head to our third baby shower in two weeks (we've been blessed by the generosity and excitement of our family and friends during this time) and made plans to come back tomorrow after work. The foster mom thinks we could take him for an outing on Tuesday. I can't wait!

Through all of this, I keep telling myself that this is really happening. IF has trained me to expect the worst so there's a part of me that is waiting for the other shoe to drop. I'm working hard to keep that part of me at bay. This is too good to ruin with pessimism.

18 comments:

Wanna Bee said...

oh yeah! I am so happy for you! so it sounds like he is just under 1 year?? My husband and I are just beginning the home study process and I too am quite gun shy from failed treatments. - can't wait to hear you've got him home

Wendy said...

My advice is just to take every second for what it is and enjoy it...I'm just so happy for you! So glad you got to meet him:)

RB said...

Sounds wonderful!

Torina said...

I am so happy for you!!!

AZAlyssa said...

The interaction with your little boy brought tears of happiness and anticipation for you. I'm so glad Yodasmistress shared your happy news on FF!
PS -- I still have the photo card you sent several winters ago. It meant so much to me that you sent it.

Lost in Space said...

Sounds incredible, Karen. I'm so happy for you!

Barb said...

WOW. :D

Anonymous said...

aww!! i'm tearing up! sending lots of positive energy! :)
*athena

Beautiful Mess said...

Awwww how sweet! When hubby tickled him, my heart did a flip flop. It sounds so sweet! I love it.

I'm glad you three are enjoying each other. I can't wait until he gets to come home with you. Hope you enjoyed your baby showers.
*HUGS*

Me said...

I'm so over the moon for you!

WaterBishop said...

That is very very wonderful. I am so happy for you.

Fran said...

I have goosbumps from happiness! I am absolutely delighted things are going so well. I know it's difficult to try and ban the little dark thought "what if somethig goes wrong now" but that's normal. I have absolutely everything crossed for you, I'm sure your day out tomorrow will be fab, Love, Fran

myhopefulheart said...

That is so great! I hope everything works out for you. What an exciting time!

cloudmaster said...

I am so happy for you.

shocks said...

I am so excited for you guys!! I got tears in my eyes reading your post! Can't wait to hear more!!!

Katherine said...

Congratulations!

Claudia said...

YAAAAAAAAAAAAAY!

Vanessa said...

So happy for you!!!!