I'm back. I'm sorry I've been gone so long. I don't really have a good excuse. I could say that I've been busy with school starting, busy with our adoption classes, busy with filling out the couple's profile, busy, busy, busy. But really, it's just been hard to write lately.
I guess I should start by saying that our adoption classes are going well. I don't exactly look forward to spending 3 hours every Monday night in a windowless, stuffy room at Social Services hearing about sexual abuse, causes of fire starting behavior, and how to deal with bedwetting, but I know it will help us in the long run. Luckily, the other people in the class are a cool bunch. Out of eight couples in the class, more than half have dealt with infertility. Two are same-sex couples. There is one single woman. I actually get to laugh a fair amount. With some of the material that's being covered, if I couldn't laugh, I'd have to cry.
Our seventh class is this week, so one more to go. DH and I are trying to get our 35-page profile questionnaire completed before then. I'm embarrassed to say that I think we're the last ones in class to get it done. It's not an easy task, as it's full of gems like, "What do you like most and least about each other? How do you show respect for each other's differences? Give examples." and "Describe the defining moments in your childhood, adolescence, and adulthood. Give examples. How have these moments impacted your views of parenting?" There are many, many more questions, all with multiple parts. And with my tendency to reflect and elaborate, I'm writing far too much for each one. The 35-page profile is quickly gaining pages.
Once the profile is handed in, we'll be assigned a social worker. That person will schedule 2-4 home visits/interviews with us. We'll also need to complete a Physical/Emotional/Behavioral Needs sheet. We basically need to say what kind of tough stuff can we think we can deal with in a child we adopt. When that's done, our worker will use the information from the home visit and the profile to write our homestudy. Oh, we'll also need to get our fingerprints done. That's a brand new requirement in our state. The timeline we're being given right now is that our homestudy might be done by the end of January/beginning of February. Then we wait for a placement.
Since we sent in our initial application to adopt in February of this year, that means we'll be just about a year into the process before our waiting even begins. If anyone ever again in my presence says, "Just adopt," I will hit him over the head with my 35-page. . .45-page. . .OK, 80-page profile. That should knock some sense into him.