tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6081003982975427557.post3565677988639605498..comments2023-04-13T07:41:31.263-04:00Comments on One Good Egg: Big Fat TearsKarenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06863024013721266313noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6081003982975427557.post-62913348366988131882008-06-28T22:10:00.000-04:002008-06-28T22:10:00.000-04:00I'm so sorry that you had to go through this.I'm so sorry that you had to go through this.Wendyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13530698884712393184noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6081003982975427557.post-41656437626653660202008-06-05T17:33:00.000-04:002008-06-05T17:33:00.000-04:00I can so relate to your post. Our stories are amaz...I can so relate to your post. Our stories are amazingly similar. We also really started trying in July of 2005 even if we didn't use any protection any more a couple of months earlier.<BR/><BR/>All the pain you are describing sounds so familiar to me. I also had an incredible close relationship with my grandparents, especially my grandfather.<BR/><BR/>Now we are on our road to adopt and if everything goes well, we might have a baby in August. But of course there is still so much that can go wrong until then.Yokahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05252039848521013049noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6081003982975427557.post-74956894540263828442008-05-24T12:41:00.000-04:002008-05-24T12:41:00.000-04:00Karen, Just thinking of you today and hope that yo...Karen, Just thinking of you today and hope that you are doing well. ((Hugs))Lost in Spacehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07027117135940864685noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6081003982975427557.post-26833348996882553902008-05-20T17:44:00.000-04:002008-05-20T17:44:00.000-04:00I just posted something very similar to these thou...I just posted something very similar to these thoughts. You are not alone.<BR/><BR/>And as for the death of someone you know not being the same.. it isn't, but research has shown that the stress of IF is very similar to the stress of losing a loved one. So take your time to grieve. I know how awful it is. I wish it wasn't.<BR/><BR/>Lots of hugsBarbhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16067045642285877560noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6081003982975427557.post-72952626443226794192008-05-19T19:11:00.000-04:002008-05-19T19:11:00.000-04:00I think it takes great courage to check in on your...I think it takes great courage to check in on your friends (virtual and real-life) who were able to graduate to the pregnancy and/or parenting side. I know how difficult it always was for me. I know it's painful and that makes me appreciate you all the more for taking that step to check in.<BR/><BR/>Where you're at right now, well, I always believed that it is true grieving. I believe that every failed cycle has a certain element of grieving involved. <BR/><BR/>Please know that my thoughts are with you at this time.Zizzyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04922329897887519332noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6081003982975427557.post-36787715813443109102008-05-19T00:17:00.000-04:002008-05-19T00:17:00.000-04:00Karen - I love your distinction between "might hav...Karen - I love your distinction between "might have been" and "meant to be". Grieving one doesn't mean you love the other any less. It means you are a human being. <BR/><BR/>But I'm so sorry you are grieving at all. Lots and lots of hugs.Allisonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01633429520589037807noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6081003982975427557.post-74644022378212029592008-05-18T19:06:00.000-04:002008-05-18T19:06:00.000-04:00I don't know how you could feel any other way. Hu...I don't know how you could feel any other way. Hugs.Mehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07923049494756911105noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6081003982975427557.post-73216247109280191042008-05-17T21:26:00.000-04:002008-05-17T21:26:00.000-04:00I'm here right beside you, sister.The pain is brea...I'm here right beside you, sister.<BR/>The pain is breathtaking, I know.<BR/>I mourn with you the child I will likely never have.<BR/><BR/>Love and hug,<BR/>ErinAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6081003982975427557.post-8819068867709982382008-05-17T11:02:00.000-04:002008-05-17T11:02:00.000-04:00Karen, I am crying reading your post. I just want...Karen, I am crying reading your post. I just want to jump through the screen and give you a giant hug. <BR/><BR/>I am so sorry you are in a waiting period for the adoption class. You have waited much too long for this already.<BR/><BR/>From my experience with grief, I have learned that we have absolutely no control. Go with it and feel every bit of it as it comes. There is no time-frame on this and don't let anyone ever tell you that you should be "over this by now".<BR/><BR/>Your thoughts are completely normal to me. Although we have not given up hope for a pregnancy yet, I do find my thoughts wandering to the "What ifs" for not having a child that I give birth to. I in no way think this means you will love your child any less. You are still letting go of a dream that has been in your head since you were a little girl.<BR/><BR/>I wish I could take away the hurt, my friend. Thinking of you....Lost in Spacehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07027117135940864685noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6081003982975427557.post-12577703208682327982008-05-17T10:43:00.000-04:002008-05-17T10:43:00.000-04:00Sending big hugs as you mourn your loss of what co...Sending big hugs as you mourn your loss of what could have been.Marahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05874947894564584023noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6081003982975427557.post-37884548340701450982008-05-17T08:23:00.000-04:002008-05-17T08:23:00.000-04:00i've heard from people who have been here that the...i've heard from people who have been here that the grief you have for the loss of having biological children is completely separate from the love you have from your meant-to-be children. they exist in different spheres and do not overlap.<BR/><BR/>you owe yourself this time to grieve.<BR/><BR/>big fat hugs to you and DH.Mirabel's Parentshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01774807819127733583noreply@blogger.com