tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6081003982975427557.post3073841826291662841..comments2023-04-13T07:41:31.263-04:00Comments on One Good Egg: There is no light at the end of the tunnel, but then again there is no tunnelKarenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06863024013721266313noreply@blogger.comBlogger25125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6081003982975427557.post-60891062064361669992008-08-29T14:21:00.000-04:002008-08-29T14:21:00.000-04:00Prophetic and moving post. Sorry I never responde...Prophetic and moving post. Sorry I never responded to your email on the same topic. Please know I did read it and it made me feel comforted.Mehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07923049494756911105noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6081003982975427557.post-21113336269714372982008-08-28T11:23:00.000-04:002008-08-28T11:23:00.000-04:00I like your analogy of IF to the clouds rather the...I like your analogy of IF to the clouds rather the tunnel. I do think though that there IS a tunnel. Only, the other side is not necessarily a BFP or a baby...but rather the woman we have become, battle-scarred and wearing our badges. Will we stand proud yet more compassionate? Or will we be withered and bitter? The choices never end.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6081003982975427557.post-68497964632607432562008-08-26T00:37:00.000-04:002008-08-26T00:37:00.000-04:00Here from ICLW...Something you said really resonat...Here from ICLW...<BR/>Something you said really resonates with me, and I have never heard it put quite this way.<BR/><BR/>"And I had no more control over being infertile than I had over whether it rains or the sun comes out tomorrow."<BR/><BR/>As a control freak, my tendency is to think I must have control over IF just as I try to have control over the attempts to address IF. But of course the first is not true, and the second is mostly an illusion of true. I will try to think of what you said the next time that I find myself trying to create control through blaming myself. Thank you!Baby Smiling In Back Seathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06483533946303787478noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6081003982975427557.post-4007606151561393502008-08-25T19:22:00.000-04:002008-08-25T19:22:00.000-04:00here from ICLW and wanted to say that this post wa...here from ICLW and wanted to say that this post was beautiful. What a great description of how inferility stays with you at all times.Katiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04769356492606351481noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6081003982975427557.post-88605970287727660282008-08-25T15:17:00.000-04:002008-08-25T15:17:00.000-04:00Such a great post. No matter how many children I ...Such a great post. No matter how many children I do or do not have, no matter how I get them, infertility will always be a part of me and who I am. <BR/><BR/>Thanks for your comment.Peevemehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15380650452145936082noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6081003982975427557.post-70750615356273228382008-08-25T13:42:00.000-04:002008-08-25T13:42:00.000-04:00Powerful words, but I'm glad that you feel like yo...Powerful words, but I'm glad that you feel like you are living at the edge of the cloud. I hope you continue to feel that way.<BR/><BR/>(returning your ICLW comment)nhhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08579146100268312887noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6081003982975427557.post-36886608528808242902008-08-25T08:32:00.000-04:002008-08-25T08:32:00.000-04:00I agree with Shelby, that no matter if you have bi...I agree with Shelby, that no matter if you have bio children, adopt, or are somewhere else on the spectrum, IF will always be there. <BR/><BR/>Your post is beautiful and is clearly written from a place of healing. May your heart continue to heal as you sort through your next decisions.Rachelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13446040378646493370noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6081003982975427557.post-85158199271112705322008-08-25T00:39:00.000-04:002008-08-25T00:39:00.000-04:00this post really hit home with me- and to think I ...this post really hit home with me- and to think I thought I was past all that!Mama Bearhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04459176957674069370noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6081003982975427557.post-78088238211609977602008-08-24T23:43:00.000-04:002008-08-24T23:43:00.000-04:00What a powerful and touching post. The cloud is a ...What a powerful and touching post. The cloud is a heavy one.dmariehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04736251577259346219noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6081003982975427557.post-26261108296600373602008-08-24T08:39:00.000-04:002008-08-24T08:39:00.000-04:00While I know the cloud of infertility occasionally...While I know the cloud of infertility occasionally makes surprise appearances, I am so glad to hear you are beginning to make your way out from under it.Kristinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10791317184998122691noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6081003982975427557.post-24062956892509309002008-08-23T16:37:00.000-04:002008-08-23T16:37:00.000-04:00What a great post. Using a cloud metaphor is extre...What a great post. Using a cloud metaphor is extremely fitting, and I love the quote. Thanks for visiting my blog on "food allergy pity party day"...your comment is appreciated!Michellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16099169240566706657noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6081003982975427557.post-5954626073663007942008-08-23T02:25:00.000-04:002008-08-23T02:25:00.000-04:00it will continue to get easier, but it will never ...it will continue to get easier, but it will never fully heal. for me there are still days when salt gets poured into the wound, but there are other days when the scab is thick.<BR/><BR/>(ILCW)Jaymeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05386596837111351204noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6081003982975427557.post-90861351168754326082008-08-22T23:43:00.000-04:002008-08-22T23:43:00.000-04:00Ophelia, that's an apt analogy too. I definitely ...Ophelia, that's an apt analogy too. I definitely agree with the shit we don't deserve part, but I'm not sure about it all leading to the same place. Does we really all end up in the same place? I don't know.Karenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06863024013721266313noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6081003982975427557.post-89921081113044086492008-08-22T18:16:00.000-04:002008-08-22T18:16:00.000-04:00oh wow, what an amazing post. I love your discript...oh wow, what an amazing post. I love your discriptioins of IF, it is so true. <BR/><BR/>I am glad you at the edge of that cloud, and so glad you found a different way out of the cloud!<BR/><BR/>Good luck with the adoption process, its fun!<BR/><BR/>here from ICLWaliciahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15026378388609134143noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6081003982975427557.post-25423211770381490652008-08-22T13:44:00.000-04:002008-08-22T13:44:00.000-04:00Infertility is like a sewer pipe... very dark, lot...Infertility is like a sewer pipe... very dark, lots of twists and turns that all eventually lead to the same place, but all filled with sh*t you don't deserve!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6081003982975427557.post-38371363047721164092008-08-22T10:22:00.000-04:002008-08-22T10:22:00.000-04:00Here from ICLW. What a well written post. I thin...Here from ICLW. What a well written post. I think your explination may help others explain their feelings/lives to their loved ones who don't understand.<BR/><BR/>Best of luck!Erinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09804206770898071326noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6081003982975427557.post-4335454098766226912008-08-22T08:29:00.000-04:002008-08-22T08:29:00.000-04:00If i didnt know it i would think you were in my he...If i didnt know it i would think you were in my head! thats me to a tee! except the "almost at peace" part... i havent quite gotten there yet! But i feel as well right now i have one foot in IF and one in adoption and adoption is def the BRIGHTER side!! after our failed cycle last Dec we moved right on to adoption and it was like a weight had been lifted, skies cleared... i was starting to be happy again.. then i got YANKED back into darkness with "renewed hope" to try ONE LAST TIME>.. I cant wait for the day when i can step OUT from under that dark cloud! i hate it! it follows me everywhere! But at least i know when i will be stepping out from under it! in 63days! LOL... Cause in 63 days my IF journey will be over! one way or the other!<BR/><BR/>Best of luck to you and i am so hapy that your finding that peace!<BR/><BR/>(return comment from ICLW - thanks for stopping by! :) )ghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12519272443772998394noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6081003982975427557.post-83170236224769138442008-08-21T23:40:00.000-04:002008-08-21T23:40:00.000-04:00I am so glad you are finding some peace. Your pos...I am so glad you are finding some peace. Your post really struck a cord with me. I feel so stuck under that cloud right now and often wonder if there is a way out other than pregnancy.<BR/><BR/>You are a wise and strong woman, Karen. You give hope to me in ways I never knew existed. Thanks for sharing your heart and your journey.Lost in Spacehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07027117135940864685noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6081003982975427557.post-44039438552301274992008-08-21T22:12:00.000-04:002008-08-21T22:12:00.000-04:00Coming over from ICLW...I can relate. Since the bi...Coming over from ICLW...<BR/><BR/><BR/>I can relate. Since the birth of my niece, I haven't felt like the clouds are pouring, but I have a feeling when I move not having something to distract me might bring the emotional storm back. Hang in there. Hugs.In Due Timehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17114196208633521694noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6081003982975427557.post-30713329120153173992008-08-21T07:43:00.000-04:002008-08-21T07:43:00.000-04:00WOW, what an absolutely beautiful post. I am feeli...WOW, what an absolutely beautiful post. I am feeling more peaceful than I was at the beginning of my journey. The peace is a great welcome. From ICLWAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6081003982975427557.post-64596924676173884042008-08-20T15:59:00.000-04:002008-08-20T15:59:00.000-04:00Thank you so much for this post. I know exactly h...Thank you so much for this post. I know exactly how you feel and hope too that I can at the very least find a rainbow amoungst the clouds and rain.Joyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17990774863319269154noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6081003982975427557.post-16562708833188305872008-08-20T15:02:00.000-04:002008-08-20T15:02:00.000-04:00*new to your blog* Acceptance is a rough one. Once...*new to your blog* Acceptance is a rough one. Once we become friends with acceptance over things we are unable to change, I find, my mind and soul are more at peace. I wish you nothing but luck and peace.Beautiful Messhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02425541240465474148noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6081003982975427557.post-49689847454614576262008-08-19T20:42:00.000-04:002008-08-19T20:42:00.000-04:00Wow. Powerful and wonderful. Good for you honey. ...Wow. Powerful and wonderful. Good for you honey. I should learn from you.Barbhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16067045642285877560noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6081003982975427557.post-15225744654195988382008-08-19T12:39:00.000-04:002008-08-19T12:39:00.000-04:00I think I like your cloud analogy better my pit on...I think I like your cloud analogy better my pit one. I think one of the ways I finally started feeling better was to let that cloud just pour for a while. No rain jacket. Not protective measures. Just let myself get drenched.<BR/>Those peaks of sun will dry you. And sometimes there is even a rainbow. :)Stephhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17363847055178499778noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6081003982975427557.post-76465742106159731682008-08-19T11:27:00.000-04:002008-08-19T11:27:00.000-04:00It is so good to hear that you are getting to the ...It is so good to hear that you are getting to the point at which the cloud is not constantly overhead. I think your metaphor is spot on. It could never be a tunnel, because whether any of us have biological children, adopted children, or choose to live without children, IF will always be with us, so there is no getting to the end and being done with it. I really love the quote. Yeah, I don't know about the old friend part, but IF is something that will reside in our hearts always.<BR/><BR/>I long to be at the edge of the cloud like you, but I'm at the point where I'm still using all my strength to keep the umbrella overhead until the storm passes.Shelbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06085283320884411888noreply@blogger.com