This is a boring update, but I hope it explains yet another part of the fost/adopt process.
Every six months, children in state custody are required to have a foster care review meeting. The purpose of the review is to discuss progress toward the child's goals. In the case of L, his goal is permanence which means adoption by us. It's usually suggested that preadoptive parents attend the meetings, but in our case L's social worker told us not to. We had been told at our disclosure meeting for L that it would not be in anyone's interest for us to attend the foster care review meetings. L's brother's preadoptive parents had never attended. L's biological father was always there and the social workers were convinced that he would become confrontational with us. They thought things would get ugly. After J, L's biodad, died, the worker felt like there was no need to change things. We emailed L's worker a narrative of how he was adjusting to our family.
So the meeting came and went. Last week we got a written report about the meeting. Nothing in there was surprising They continue to recommend permanence through adoption by us. It was nice to see us referred to as L's forever family. The report also said the plan is for us to finalize in June.
I would love for us to finalize in June, but it's highly unlikely. For reasons I don't understand the medical examiner has been very slow with issuing a death certificate for J, L's biological father. Until the death certificate is issued, the court can't terminate parental rights. Until the court terminates parental rights, the adoption paperwork can't be submitted. We're hoping it happens soon, but we're not holding our breath. We just keep telling ourselves that it will happen eventually.